Don’t get married for any reason.

If you are considering getting married, I would advise against it. Let me tell you why. Most people get married for the wrong reasons. For a man, marriage would probably be a mistake, and for a woman, it’s more like suicide. Few people are happy being married because they enter into that contract thinking the other person is going to make them happy. No such luck. You are responsible for your own happiness.

Also, Most people think that they own their spouse and that comes with all the problems with master-slave relationships. Let me be the first to inform you that nobody owns another person. Our suppose society is somewhat responsible for people feeling this way, but we are responsible for our society as a whole. We are told to feel this way. It is part of our programing. Get over that. Realize there is nothing wrong with being single, and you will probably be happier if you are happy with yourself.

With the new awareness that seems to be appearing, there is really no reason people should not maintain their individuality and stay single, unless their intent is to get a partner and raise children with them. Most marriages are two people who just fell in love with themselves while being admired by each other. Marriage is really a partnership where the partners get the idea that they own each other.

Don’t get married. You could do something more meaningful with your life besides getting married and popping out more children. Enjoy your life. You may think you want kids and a husband, but just give it some very serious thought. Is that really what you want to do with the rest of your life?

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Published in: on December 16, 2007 at 6:37 am  Comments (3)  

Humor On Marriage

Choices:

Choices, the lovers

You have two choices in life: You can stay single and be miserable,or get married and wish you were dead.

A lady inserted an ad in the classifieds: “Husband Wanted”. Next day she received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: “You can have mine.”

On Infidellity:

The woman did not seem upset that her husband was fooling around. When asked about that, she said, I’m hoping that one of them will take him off my hands for good.”

When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him.

Marriage:

A little boy asked his father, “Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?” Father replied, “I don’t know son, I’m still paying.”

A woman is incomplete until she is married. Then she is finished

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.

A young son asked, “Is it true Dad, that in some parts of Africa a man doesn’t know his wife until he marries her?” Dad replied, “That happens in every country, son.”

Then there was a woman who said, “I never knew what real happiness was until I got married, and by then, it was too late.”

If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say — talk in your sleep.

On finding fault with your spouse:

Just think, if it weren’t for marriage, men would go through life thinking they had no faults at all.

If a woman wants to improve herself all she has to do is get divorced. Suddenly she realizes that she has no more faults.

Perceptions:

First guy says, “My wife’s an angel!” Second guy remarks, “You’re lucky, mine’s still alive.”

” A Woman’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I pray for: Wisdom, To understand a man , to Love and to forgive him , and for patience, For his moods. Because Lord, if I pray for Strength I’ll just beat him to death “

Published in: on September 17, 2006 at 4:18 pm  Leave a Comment  

Why Blog anyway? Nobody reads this stuff.

Why Blog?
Does anybody really read this stuff?

The question I have is why blog? Or perhaps I should be asking why do I do it? Why not just type my shit into the computer and store it in some hidden file that may never be seen again. If I do that, then what is the point? To read it when I am old and have forgotten half of my life? Would that be a way to relive my life again? But who would want to do that? There may be some things you just want to forget.

I will be as honest as possible about this. I guess I just want to connect with other people out there all over the world. In this wonderful age of technology, the Internet is awesome for finding information and now, with blogging we can communicate with the entire world. If we do that, one day we might discover that we like each other and have things in common after all.

One day we might discover that we don’t need to kill each other in war, and that we don’t need governments and military to keep us apart. We can exchange goods and ideas in peace and friendship. What a lofty idea. But is that too much to imagine or hope for? Is that piling it on too thick? Perhaps.

Okay then, if you don’t buy that, maybe I will say that I just want to meet someone and get laid. LOL __ Hey wait, That can’t be true. Well…. I won’t rule out that possibility. But I jest. Truth is, I just like to express myself and bounce it off other people of the same or different opinions. It’s a creative endeavor I suppose. Yes, I am an opinionated out spoken woman and that intimidates a lot of men. That is good. Any man who is intimidated by that is not man enough or smart enough to be my friend anyway. (I say “be my friend” because I am anti-“going-together” and anti-marriage.) The big problem with “going together” is you can’t really divorce him, or give him his ring back because he never gave you one. The problem with marriage is you have to pay or hire a lawyer and that can get messy… but the upside is when that is all over, you know that its really over, or least you should.

I doth rant too much I think.

But I do like intelligent men who dance. I have no delusions however, that I will ever meet one in the flesh. I live in a baron wasteland populated by pop-gutted wheat and pig farmers. Blogging keeps me sane. That’s why I do it.

Of course whether or not I am sane is debatable. I think I am. It’s everyone else that is nuts.

Published in: on September 13, 2006 at 10:10 pm  Comments (1)  

The Cinderella Complex

Cinderella Complex

Based on Colette Dowling’s 1981 book The Cinderella complex:,The Cinderella complex is an unconscious desire to be taken care of by others, based primarily on a fear of being independent.

Frankly, I am a insulted by that theory because I think that most women want to be independent. Could I be wrong? Since it is an “unconscious” desire, perhaps it is hidden from the waking consciousness. I acknowledge that everyone wants to be happy and safe, but why would anyone want to be dependant on someone else? No, I just don’t buy it.

I have always felt that the “Cinderella Complex,” (if there is such an affliction) is the idea that you can (and should ) live happily ever after with a man, or the belief that someday “your prince will come,” or a handsome knight in shinning armor will ride up on his white horse and rescue you from some dreaded fate. The Cinderella Complex, is the idea that you have a soul mate somewhere, and maybe you will meet him some day. So you keep looking.

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This is the fantasy we have been brought up with. If you don’t believe me, try reading a few romance novels. Never mind reading, just look at the cover of the books. These books will take you all the way to the climax of romance satisfaction and then end with the “and they lived happily ever after” fantasy. Nope I have not read these books, I don’t have to. I already know the ending.

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It’s a hook with a juicy worm. Don’t bite. The “Happily ever after” is never explored in these stories because they don’t want you to know the truth. Besides, that’s no longer a romance. It is a drama, or a horror story, like “The burning Bed.” or “Sleeping with the enemy.” or “Married with children.” Relationships are not that simple. Romance is temporary. Marriage is an institution. Just be prepared for the “happily ever after.”

If I am way off base here, I would like to hear from someone who is living the “happily ever after with the opposite sex. I will ask for your spouse’s phone number to confirm it of course. It has to be happy on both sides to qualify.

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The Happy Couple

If you are going to get married here is my advice: To women:

1. Don’t (You won’t take it so..)

2. Do a criminal background check.

3. Talk to his ex-wife.

4. Make him fill out an application.

6. Check his work record and his credit record.

7. Make sure he can support you and the child you will make.

8. Get your own bank account and your own income or job.

9. Get a pre-nuptial agreement and a deposit.

10. Take inventory about what you both want and expect out of the relationship.

For a Man: All of the above applies to men also.

Romance

All in good humor of course. Have fun folks! Live the dream.

Published in: on September 12, 2006 at 3:53 am  Comments (18)  

Until Death do us…

Death and Marriage

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Marriage kills the soul and the joy of autonomy for both the man and the woman but mostly the woman. Can two people really “become as one” without loosing their own soul and who they are? I don’t think so. If two people become one, then it is because one of them has consumed the other one.

In the above picture, the death card shows a vampire man, and a “dead” woman getting married. He has already sucked the life’s breath out of her soul, or he plans to, so she is represented by a skull. That is her future and her energy. It could just as well be the other way around. It is not always the man who consumes the woman, but that is what society accepts as “normal.”

Most of the time married people spend their life in battle trying to change each other. They do this for most of their marriage until they are in so deep financially they can’t escape. The STATE charges a fee to marry you and they charge even more to let you get divorced. And for what? What business does the government have making rules for a personal relationship of any kind?

Down with marriage I say!! It is evil. It is not “a man, a woman and God.” It is a man, a woman and THE STATE.

If you are married, my advice is get a divorce. It is worth the money. If you are “in love,” you should see a shrink. Being “In Love” is the same as being “Insane.” If you are thinking about marriage ask yourself why would you want to bring the government into your life that way? If you must, just live together. If you want to share property just buy it in both of your names. If you want a contract, draw one up, but for your sake, and your partner’s, do not get married.

If you invite me to your wedding I will send a sympathy card. I will come dressed in black, and when the man asks if there is anyone who knows why these two people should not be bound together in the institution of matrimony, I wlll stand up and give a speech you will not forget.

Oh I believe people can love one another! But true love needs no bondage. It is free love. (Free love is not free sex either, like so many hippy’s used to think.) It is just divine love.

But marriage is all about money, property, and raising children. A man always pays for sex whether he knows it or not. He either hires a professional or he buys an idiot who agrees to bare his children if he marry’s her. Then the battle begins. Marriage is also about owning another person. You are MY wife, I am YOUR husband. If you think your are free, think again.

If you are older, there is no reason to get married. If you are young, chances are you, as a women, will end up alone with three kids and no child support trying to survive working two jobs and neglecting your children. If you are a man, your eyes may wander and your wife will sue you for divorce and take your kids, your home and your dog away from you, or else the government will hound you for the rest of your life for child support payments just because you did not know anything about birth control.

Need some advice? Drop me a line. But you know how I feel about marriage already. I see nothing wrong or sinful about sex with another consenting adult, but to do it only with each other until death do we part? In your dreams!! Marriage contracts should be for five or ten years at best, beyond such time they will expire if not renewed. Decisions about the children can be written up in a contract.

As for gays getting married, the advice is the same. You are idiots to want to get married. If gays start getting married they won’t be “gay” anymore. They will be “miserable” like the rest of the married population.

To any man I may date in the future: I will loose all respect for your intelligence if you even suggest that we get married. (Not that any man would, I’m just giving advanced warning.)

P.S. (Added Later)
This is not to say that no marriages work. Some can and do. But what if you could form workable partnerships without all the baggage of marriage? I think that would be nice. Partnerships should be an equal give and take and a win win situation for each person. Both should be happy.

Reverand Priestess Gloria Jean
Single and loving it.

Published in: on September 11, 2006 at 12:37 am  Comments (5)